you deserve the world

Sometimes being around other people really makes you learn a lot about yourself. I am very good at taking in what other people say, although using their advice or believing their words is not my forte. I have a lot of very different kinds of friends and always have. There is a lot to my personality and I like to think I can relate to all my friends in some way or another. But sometimes relating to your friends really makes you think twice about what you are doing, and if the choices you have made are correct and can help other people.

Recently, things have changed a lot for me; for the better that is. I am truly satisfied and happy with my life and the things going on throughout it. And although it has taken me this long to be fully content, I wish nothing more than my friends to feel the way I do right now and even better than this. I care for them so much that when they feel pain, I usually do too. So throughout my happiness, I encounter sadness too because I take my friend's feelings very closely to my heart.

Someone very close to me experiences things in her life that some will and some will not. She has been through a lot and although she has hit rock bottom more than once, she is still standing beautifully today. But as we conversed yesterday morning, I really learned about myself. Sometimes when you are trying so hard to do something, forget something or someone, learn from something or just enjoy the moment, you cannot. Some things have a way of not happening when you want them to, then hitting you at the last second of a moment you did not ever expect. I have been through this more than once, and someone very close to me just experienced it as well. But I did not stop to think about it until yesterday when she brought it up.

A quote from Perks of Being a Wallflower: "We except the love we think we deserve."
Along with the rest of the book, this is a great quote. And it is true. We except the love and many other things because we think that is all we deserve. But honestly, how many of us think we deserve everything? Sometimes it is hard to realize what we really do deserve and what things we are actually better than in our lives, because a lot of the time we are very modest. But should we be? I mean, to a point yes, but in all aspects?

I myself have never thought I deserved more than what I had and a lot of my friends feel the same way. But perhaps that is because of what we have been told, showed and experienced in our lives. But after these past few weeks, for me, and after only one night for my friend, we have learned that we DO deserve everything we can get our hands on. We have all struggled, worked hard and got through things maybe others have not or things we did not expect ourselves to get through, so give yourself a break and take what you deserve from life. Do not settle yourself short.

"Never settle for less than butterflies" is another great quote I have read. This shows that no matter what it is, do not settle for anything less than something that makes you so happy. I have really learned this the hard way. Always doing things for other people before myself, helping others when all I want is to be listened to, cherishing others more than myself and making others happy, even if that meant I was not. That is not good. I am a very selfless person, but sometimes, you need to be selfish in a way that makes you happy. Nothing is more important than your own happiness at the end of the day.

Realizing that you deserve great things is very hard for people to do most times. We never want to say, "you're/this is not good enough for me," but sometimes we think it. Next time that happens, push yourself farther and get what is good enough for you; get what you deserve. Settling for the safe things or things that made you happy at one point, but no longer fulfill your needs anymore, is no way to live. I have learned this and it makes me so happy to know someone close to me is finally learning it too.

"A smile is the best makeup a girl could ever wear."

Be strong, be bold.

like royalty

What if someone else had control over your life? What if you did not have the power to change what you wanted or make your own decisions? I feel like we complain so much about what is going on in our lives; negative things, bad decisions we have made, how many decisions we actually have to make and even some positive things too. But are we not lucky to have this power? This power to create our own lives for ourselves and live every day the way we want to? I think we are very blessed to have this virtue.

We make the changes in our lives when we want them to happen. I wrote in an earlier post that we must go along with the world, change and move forward; but that is not all we have to do. We have to think about what we have and appreciate all of it. There are so many people in this world that have less than what you have sitting on your couch right now. So many people struggle day in and day out and if we sit and complain about our lives and how things are not going well, what are we? Selfish, naive, negative people? You have the power in your life, no one else. So when something is wrong, change it. If you are not happy, find something that makes you happy and go for it. So many people stay stagnant for so long because they are safe or comfortable or they just do not understand that they have the power to make that change for themselves, no one else. 

This is something that is not written in manual, you cannot find it on Google, it is inside you. There is this amazing will power inside of you that makes you fight, work hard and push toward whatever goal it is that you want to achieve; but so many people do not know about it. I took me a very, very long time to find my inner strength. I have hit rock bottom with my inner self and nothing was harder than having to pull myself back up. I could not have done it without my friends, but in the end it was all me. Everyone has been in a situation where someone has told you that you were better than it, that you were making a mistake, but you did not hear it. This is because no matter what anyone says to you, at the end of the day, it is your decision to change and persevere. 

So the next time you are sitting around sulking in your own mess, worried about what is to come, fighting your battles and wondering what to do next, keep your head up. Because no one is going to be able to make those decisions for you, and that by itself, should be enough to keep you going. Who does not want all the power?

Be strong, be bold.

one foot in front of the other

Life is moving on around us, whether we like it or not.

Sometimes we don't notice the changes around us when they are not as obvious as we'd like. The leaves changing in Autumn, or the crisp cold air of Winter...we are not as observant with other changes. But the world is moving on and changing under our feet and we need to continue moving with it.

Staying positive is probably the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Keep moving with the world, do not look back on what happened yesterday or the day before...just don't. Nothing good comes from negativity from the past. You may look back on memories, good times or important things that have occurred, but being negative and moving forward does not mesh.

Also, keep changing. I don't care what anyone says, in some aspect, change is healthy and good. No one can be the same forever and nothing will ever remain the same forever; it is a part of life. Sometimes we need a change to open our minds wider. Or sometimes we need someone to make a change to fully understand the meaning of them in our lives. Change can be scary, but the world does it every day, so we have to keep moving and changing with it.

Look how much our society has changed over the years. We are seeing things that make us excited and other things that make us scared or mad; this is all apart of life and change. I like to think we work the same way. You start off liking one thing, then you move to another. You begin with an era of music and change to another. You wear certain clothing, then change to different styles. We change every year, sometimes every day, in ways no one notices. But it is all for the better.

Everyone deserves more than a stagnant world to live in.
So live, breathe, change, move forward and never look back and carry that negativity with you.

Be strong, be bold.