be you.

i was always told, when i was inspired to write...that i should write.
and Art History inspired me today.


There is a sculpture in ancient history called the Women of Willendorf.

This sculpture represents a healthy, wide hipped, fertile, woman in the ancient world. Someone the men would want as a wife and as the mother of their children. Hundreds and hundreds of years ago, the "perfect" woman was this in their minds. Someone with wide hips so having a baby would be easier, a large chest for feeding, and big legs for producing a strong baby. This is what men longed for. Now think about it....what does the common male want in our world today?

Jessica Alba

Jessica is one example of what the common man looks at today. A beautiful, striking, face, still a big chest, very thin waist, barely no hips, and long skinny legs. This is what, in today's world, has been said to be very close to perfect. A size 1, if she even wears that.

another example would be..

A Victoria Secret Model

This girl here, in this bathing suit...doesn't really even look like this. A size 0 in pants probably hangs off of her in this picture, but this is all air brushing. Although, when you first looked at this, didn't you think "Wow! If I was that skinny!" ....exactly, you did. we all do. SHE even wishes she was that skinny.

The difference is scary. Too many girls and women in this world today are too preoccupied with their weight and what they look like, to live their happy successful lives. I have seen and heard of way to many girls and woman, picked on, bullied, and put down for what they look like. And I myself have gone through this. Being even a little overweight, is hard in this society. But what is overweight?

From the first picture of the sculpture, to the model above, great changes have been made in the image of the perfect woman. And if you step back not to far, the woman icon, who wore a size 8 and above, would be considered fat in our world; when by no means is a size 8 large.

Marilyn Monroe

To me, is one of the most beautiful women who has ever lived. But in today's world and society, she would be considered overweight.

I encourage women to think about this. That Victoria secret model, who starves herself and STILL needs to be air brushed..isn't real. Jessica Alba's million dollar body, that she lives with a personal trainer telling her what to eat and what not to eat..watching her every move...isn't real. But Marilyn? Marilyn is real life. She is a real woman with curves and still is beyond beautiful. You don't need to be a size 1 to be beautiful, beauty is within the eye of the beholder. It is wayyyy more than skin deep, beauty comes from within. And if you're pretty, to my guy, your face is pretty. You could be a size 20, and if your face is pretty, you're considered pretty. Our bodies don't make up everything, although most girls think it does, myself included. I think it's time we look in the mirror and instead of saying "woof!" say, "Does this color look good on me?" or "What can I do different with my hair today, or accessories!" Losing weight is scary and hard. Toning your body is extremely hard, i know, i try. But to be beautiful, love yourself and have confidence. The rest will come. Don't try to change yourself to fit the norms of today's world...be Marilyn.

"I don't mind living in a man's world, as long as I can be a woman in it." 
 

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"Keep smiling, because life is a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about."

learn from yourself.

I learn a lot every day.

sometimes, people change. sometimes they change for the better, or for the worse, but regardless it is out of your control. you can't help when someone is different then they always were, or better then they always were, the ball is in their court when it comes to matters of themselves. but one thing you can control, is how you handle the situation. i have learned that being sad, mad, upset, and confused, isn't the way to deal with change.  i believe you should wait and see how things come together after that person is gone, or that person is back in your life. people may surprise you... change is inevitable in every form and way. you can't stop someone from changing themselves just because you don't want the change, you must learn to ride with it, or off course.

there are times when change happens unexpectidly. something that you wish would always remain the exact same way it has always been...but you have no control over that. and i have recently learned that. sometimes, when something changes, it acts as a challenge for you to defeat or overcome. i myself, do not like some of the changes that will be accuring in my life, but i have learned that i can't stop them. all i can do is live. live, breathe, laugh, love, and enjoy the time i have in this moment, this summer, this place. because pretty soon, things are going to be changing a lot. and the only thing i can do is let them change, you decide which way i want to go with them. and as for my love, no matter the changes, it will always remain the same for you.

although i have lost some friends i have gained great new ones. although i have lost some people in my life who, at the time, meant a great deal to me, i have gained more who mean more to me. and although things may be hard and rocky a lot for me...i have learned that nothing is easy, and if it is easy, something's wrong. nothing comes easy to me. not a sport, not music, not communication with others, not school, not friendships, relationships, or life. so i have learned i need to try, and fight, and never give up. because i have the things i want in life (minus a few) and i have fought to get where i am today. nothing can take away what i have done to make myself the person i am today, and i wouldn't erase it for anything. there are days that i wish i could go back and fix things, sure, i regret a lot of things in my life...but i can't change the inevitable; the change itself. the change i have gone through in the past five years. the change my mind has gone through even in the past year, and the change i am about to go through for the next three or more years. no matter what, you cannot change what has happened, what is about to happen, or what is happening...if it's going to happen anyway. there is no "right way" to turn or to look, there is no "right door" to open or walk past, and there is no "wrong way" to live your life. YOU decide what is best for you, and YOU decide what path to walk on when you face the fork in the road with change written all over it. my path? leads right into the change, because i don't have another choice. And I'm okay with that, because I'm a fighter. And everything will be okay.