like royalty

What if someone else had control over your life? What if you did not have the power to change what you wanted or make your own decisions? I feel like we complain so much about what is going on in our lives; negative things, bad decisions we have made, how many decisions we actually have to make and even some positive things too. But are we not lucky to have this power? This power to create our own lives for ourselves and live every day the way we want to? I think we are very blessed to have this virtue.

We make the changes in our lives when we want them to happen. I wrote in an earlier post that we must go along with the world, change and move forward; but that is not all we have to do. We have to think about what we have and appreciate all of it. There are so many people in this world that have less than what you have sitting on your couch right now. So many people struggle day in and day out and if we sit and complain about our lives and how things are not going well, what are we? Selfish, naive, negative people? You have the power in your life, no one else. So when something is wrong, change it. If you are not happy, find something that makes you happy and go for it. So many people stay stagnant for so long because they are safe or comfortable or they just do not understand that they have the power to make that change for themselves, no one else. 

This is something that is not written in manual, you cannot find it on Google, it is inside you. There is this amazing will power inside of you that makes you fight, work hard and push toward whatever goal it is that you want to achieve; but so many people do not know about it. I took me a very, very long time to find my inner strength. I have hit rock bottom with my inner self and nothing was harder than having to pull myself back up. I could not have done it without my friends, but in the end it was all me. Everyone has been in a situation where someone has told you that you were better than it, that you were making a mistake, but you did not hear it. This is because no matter what anyone says to you, at the end of the day, it is your decision to change and persevere. 

So the next time you are sitting around sulking in your own mess, worried about what is to come, fighting your battles and wondering what to do next, keep your head up. Because no one is going to be able to make those decisions for you, and that by itself, should be enough to keep you going. Who does not want all the power?

Be strong, be bold.

one foot in front of the other

Life is moving on around us, whether we like it or not.

Sometimes we don't notice the changes around us when they are not as obvious as we'd like. The leaves changing in Autumn, or the crisp cold air of Winter...we are not as observant with other changes. But the world is moving on and changing under our feet and we need to continue moving with it.

Staying positive is probably the best thing you could ever do for yourself. Keep moving with the world, do not look back on what happened yesterday or the day before...just don't. Nothing good comes from negativity from the past. You may look back on memories, good times or important things that have occurred, but being negative and moving forward does not mesh.

Also, keep changing. I don't care what anyone says, in some aspect, change is healthy and good. No one can be the same forever and nothing will ever remain the same forever; it is a part of life. Sometimes we need a change to open our minds wider. Or sometimes we need someone to make a change to fully understand the meaning of them in our lives. Change can be scary, but the world does it every day, so we have to keep moving and changing with it.

Look how much our society has changed over the years. We are seeing things that make us excited and other things that make us scared or mad; this is all apart of life and change. I like to think we work the same way. You start off liking one thing, then you move to another. You begin with an era of music and change to another. You wear certain clothing, then change to different styles. We change every year, sometimes every day, in ways no one notices. But it is all for the better.

Everyone deserves more than a stagnant world to live in.
So live, breathe, change, move forward and never look back and carry that negativity with you.

Be strong, be bold.

fresh start

The start of a new chapter, a new beginning.

Yesterday many things changed. My relationship that I have loved for over two years was ended for the better and I realized a lot about myself. Nothing is easy about a break up, ever. We had amazing times together and he taught me so much about myself, but I also learned things he could not teach me. I learned things that maybe he and others do not approve of; but that's the best part. The best part of it all is that this is my life, not anyone else's and I need to live for me.

I have been so strong throughout everything that has happened to me. I have been through more than almost all the 20-21 year old women I know, and I am proud to say I have overcome it all. But yesterday as I sat weighing out options and really thinking about what I want I realized something. I realized that what I want, is not set in stone. The things I want to do in my life are dreams, wishes and things that I want to accomplish, but they are not well-organized, set in stone or planned out for me to begin achieving. Now, some things, yes, I would like make a plan for...but I don't want everything to be a plan. I want to live spontaneously, travel to places on impulse, live my life day to day because why worry about the future, when it has not arrived yet.

We all sit around and worry too often. We worry about today's To Do list, tomorrow's exam, next weeks challenges, a few months down the road where we'll be, and the worst, years from now. Why should we be worrying about anything we cannot control in this very moment? I don't know where I am going to be in 2 years, hopefully working full time and doing what I love. But am I going to worry about the details of that now? No way. I am going to live in the now and enjoy every little thing that crosses my way. I want to open my eyes to what is out there, in front of me, and really soak up the beauty this world has to offer. And even if that means being on my own, with no man next to me, so be it. I have become a strong, independent woman and only I can make myself happy right now.

Opening a new chapter is always a little intimidating. It's like reading a book. Will you like this one as much as the last? Will you be satisfied with the outcome, the characters and the sequence of events? Will this chapter be the one to set up the climax of the full story?

I have opened new chapters before and they progressively have gotten better, so I am not all that scared this time. I have built up a strong foundation to carry myself and make sure I do not crumble. I have fought time and time again to gain strength, confidence and a high self esteem so that nothing will break me, even if I do fall.

Everything in life teaches you something. It is a learning experience every single day that we are living and nothing is ever the way you pictured it. But that's the fun in growing up. We are all so intimidated by age and growing up, but it's amazing how much we learn, experience, decide and live through.

I am finally proud of myself.

Be strong, be bold.